For many people, summer comes with much anticipation for opportunities to enjoy warmer
weather and to create new memories. However, every season may bring on new challenges for individuals navigating grief. Summertime grieving can feel quite different than wintertime
grieving. We are often expected to feel more joyous and happier in the summer due to the shift in weather, but our grief may not always match this expectation. Summertime grieving might feel very different than our experience with wintertime grief, when our emotions may better match the dreary weather. Recognizing the reality that grief follows us into the summertime and being aware of some points for reflection can help us to feel more equipped to endure the new season.
There are often holidays that are targeted as being particularly difficult for those grieving, such as Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. Summertime brings Canada Day and the Civic Holiday. These holidays are not discussed as frequently in relation to grief, but it is very important to remember that grief and mourning look different for each individual or family. Perhaps you are someone who has a lot of memories from these summertime holidays. Maybe there were activities, such as watching fireworks or spending the day as a family, which may feel quite different without your loved one. Be open to discussing how the holidays may feel through your grieving experience.
Birthdays and anniversaries are also highlights of the summer for many. Thinking about the
missing attendance of your loved one as you celebrate these events can bring on mixed
emotions. Try reflecting on past memories by spending time looking through old photos or
videos to honour your loved one.
Last, think about how our senses impact grief during the summer. Consider the following:
1. Smell – How does it affect you when you smell the campfire? Perhaps this activity
reminds you of your loved one.
2. Sight – What is it like watching the sunset late on a summer night? There could be a
sense of peace or calm that may remind you of your loved one.
3. Taste – Is watermelon a staple in your home during the summer? Pausing to think about
whether it was a favourite of your loved one may lead to more grief reflections.
4. Sound – Do you notice the sound of birds chirping outside? Maybe your loved one was
an avid bird watcher.
5. Touch – How does it feel when you walk across the lawn? You may be reminded of
memories from spending time in your backyard.
Simply pausing to think about holidays, birthdays/anniversaries, and the range of sensory
experiences during the summertime can allow us to respect our grieving experience while also giving ourselves permission to enjoy the change in season.
Submitted by: Walking Through Grief Society
Funded by FCSS; City of Lloydminster, Towns of Vermilion and Wainwright, Villages of Kitscoty and Marwayne and County of Vermilion River.
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